You have made your decision. Something in your life is going to change. A new job, a change of address, becoming a non-smoker, incorporating exercise into your daily life, improved eating habits…….the list is endless. We all have something in our lives which we could change, but how do you keep going when it gets to be a struggle?
No matter what you want to change in your life – there is a common stream running through them all. It will be too easy to go back to doing what you have always done, and getting what you have always got without this. There is no magic formula, no magic pills, no guru that will make it easy for you…….it all comes down to you and the decisions you make for your life
Now, I know this can be a scary thought for many – I can hear the words now.
- I am not strong enough
- The cravings are too much for me
- It’s in my genes
- What if I can’t get another job?
- I am addicted to the nicotine
- It’s too hard to find the time to exercise
It’s pretty easy to come up with excuses – so How Do You Keep Going when all you want to do is go back?
Here are the simple steps to start this process. It is extremely important to write down your answers to these questions. Simply speaking the words will not bring sufficient emotion into your actions. I also like to date my writings. Now, it is time for absolute complete honesty with yourself – write YOUR TRUTH in answer to the following questions:
- How is your life being affected NOW by what you are doing? Be honest with yourself. Remember – no one else has to see your writing.
- On a separate page, write down how your life has been affected SO FAR. What has this prevented you from doing, what are you missing out on, how has this affected your health – physically and/or mentally?
- How long you have been practicing this habit, or how long you have wanted to make a change in your life? Was there a defining moment in time that triggered this desire to “smoke, drink, take drugs, start a new career, leave an old relationship, begin a new relationship? – whatever it is you want to change, there is always a point in time which triggered either your commencement or cessation.
- What has this prevented me from doing or having or being?
- Am I READY to let go and make these changes to my life?
- How has what I am doing (or not doing) affected my self image and/or self esteem?
While you are writing your answers, you may be surprised by your responses. Let your writings flow – don’t THINK about what you will write down – just start writing, and writing, and writing. Once you have completed the previous 6 steps, then comes the most important.
- After you have made your change HOW will your life be different? WHAT can you achieve, WHERE can you go, and WHEN will that be?
Your WHY must be strong enough to counteract the complacency, the cravings, the everyday distractions which will inevitably come your way.
YOUR WHY MUST BE COMPELLING TO YOU
For example: You may want to become a non-smoker. You have tried the patches, cutting down, giving up for your partner, any number of times. You know you “should give up” Everyone knows the health risks………but that craving creeps in when those familiar times come along…..and your “will power” just want hold out any longer. What do you do?
Decide on your WHY….If the health reasons are not sufficient – what about a reward? Maybe you have always dreamed of a trip to the Greek Islands…set up a special savings account and put away the exact amount you would spend on your cigarettes each week, and watch your dream of travel become a reality.
When those cravings strike, take out your writings, and read your WHYS – keep focused on what you are gaining rather than what you are giving up.
If you want circumstances in your life to change then you must change. Become aware of your actions (or inactions) and thoughts, and remain focused on
YOUR PERSONAL WHYS