It’s never worked for me before, why would it now? I’ve tried to change my life, but it never works. It runs in the family – we are all like this. Why bother, only lucky people get the breaks? Does this sound familiar? Do you believe that what you have done in the past is the only way to your future?
Anthony Robbins believes that “Your past does not equal your future.” and I couldn’t agree more with him!
When you make the decision to change your life, one of things you need to overcome is the belief that your future is a continuation of your past or your parents past. It comes down to what we are focusing on. If your focus remains on all your past failures (something we have all experienced), then we don’t see or feel the successes along the way. We brush them off as insignificant or not even notice them at all. (Please refer to my earlier article entitled “Where is Your Focus?)
Our lives become self-fulfilling. If you believe you are undeserving, a failure, have no luck in relationships, whatever your thoughts are, come about. You expect these results, and believe it or not, you look for these results until they are fulfilled.
On the other side, if you focus on your past successes, it can breed an outlook for continued success. Have a think now about your life and what you are focusing on. Better still, write down the most significant events that have occurred in your life – do you consider them failures or successes? If all your events listed are classified as failures, it’s time to break that cycle of thought! Just because you have done things a certain way in the past, does not mean it has to remain the same in the future.
As human beings, we are all capable of changing our lives. I am not saying it is an easy thing to do. However, the first step is recognizing you really do have that capability. You can change your health, you can improve your self worth, you can change your education levels – it is all possible if we choose it.
Look at who you spend your majority of time with. Are they also always looking at the negatives of life? Do they laugh at your ideas of improving your situation, or do they seem to support you, but in reality sabotage your efforts? This is an extremely important step in changing your future.
What is it you want to change? What are some steps you can take right now to make that change? Who are the people in your life that can assist you? Are there people not yet in your life that can assist you? Are there books and materials available to guide you? Take control of your life.
Make your future what you want it to be, not what your past has been! Every moment is an opportunity to make the changes. Will you start now, or will you wait until things get better or your luck changes? If you are waiting for these things, your past certainly will equal your future. It really is a matter of making the choices, and changing your life. Your choice – choose wisely!