My last post about Energy Vampires created quite a stir, and the main question being asked was “How can I tell if I am the Energy Vampire? Most Energy Vampires are actually unaware that they drain the energy from others, so whilst reading this post, be honest with yourself, for your sake as well as those people around you.
Recognizing the Energy Vampire Within
There are a number of characteristics common with Energy Vampires. As you are reading this list, see if you recognize any of these characteristics within yourself?
- An Energy Vampire is extremely opinionated and doesn’t have a problem telling people what they think. They seldom have anything good to say to you or about anything in their lives. Their favorite topic of conversation is themselves, and they very rarely ask questions to the person they are speaking at.
- There are always dramas in an Energy Vampire’s life. When they are speaking to their friends or colleagues, they are always sharing every grievance in their lives, no matter how trivial.
- Energy Vampires complain endlessly about problems in their lives, but rarely, if ever, take steps to improve their situations. The same issues are discussed week in, week out. Do you find that nearly all of your interactions with people are complaints about your job, your boss, your partners, your neighbors, the numerous illnesses or ailments you have or anything else that you constantly complain about? If so, take a breathe and congratulate yourself – recognition that you may be an Energy Vampire is the first step to change.
- Pity Parties are the weekly entertainment – you want people’s sympathy, but will not take their advise on how to fix the problem. Solutions are really not what you are looking for – you want people to feel sorry for you. If you hear a story about someone else’s misfortune – do you have a bigger and better story about how you were worse off? Do you even let them finish their story before you jump in with “You think that’s bad, wait till you hear what happened to me!”
- Guilt and a sense of entitlement that you are owed something is very common amongst family members. Have you heard yourself say “After all I’ve done for you, you at least owe me this”?
- Energy Vampires constantly look at the negatives in any situation. Other people can see the potential, but Energy Vampires only see the problems.
- Responsibility for the Energy Vampires life is always blamed on something or someone else – their parents, their partner, their siblings, their children, their government, their school, their teachers – anyone but themselves.
- Constant reassurance of their abilities and personality is required from as many people as possible. Energy Vampires need reassurance that they are right about their thoughts of life, and will keep talking until they get the replies they want. They are usually dependent on approval from others.
- Energy Vampires are usually unaware of the effect they have on others. They miss the signs that people are either uncomfortable, bored or trying to shift the conversations away from the Energy Vampires topics. However, the Energy Vampires constantly return to their preferred subject – themselves.
Having read through this post, there will be people having a sense of recognition, and there will be those who fail to realize this article may be describing what other people see in them on a constant basis.
It can be a difficult thing to take responsibility for the way we live our lives, but once you take this responsibility and actually make the changes required, your life and those around you will be enhanced. Once you recognize that you have become, or are becoming an Energy Vampire, there are ways to change. This will be the follow up post next week.
Please share your stories and thoughts on this topic. It is a common situation, and by sharing, others will benefit from your experiences.
If you would like to know how to deal with Energy Vampires, please go to Energy Vampires
Hey Girl…you have done it again! Spectacular information for people to know. It’s is funny because I’m casting away all the vampires in my life, but family members are the most difficult. We have to remember besides our interactions with other people we work with, it is our families that have the most energy when it comes to this subject.
Our high emotions, roles, and other aspects in the family I find are more difficult to cut cords with. This is important because it can drain you from a productive day.
Keep up your “vampire chronicles” I love ‘em!
Donna
Thank you Donna. Couldn’t agree more. All my writings relate to my life or people that I have met, so I fully understand and agree with your comments.
“The Vampire Chronicles” will continue. It has created quite a reaction from people who have the energy sappers in their life, or are starting to recognize that they may be draining the energy from others.
That’s my aim through this site – to bring information to people so they can change their “Mind Recipes” they have developed into habits and which aren’t serving themselves positively.
Brenda,
Great post with plenty of insights into Energy Vampires! I love your examples. Can we post this in all the major papers, magazines & news channels? Seriously, you have opened a great vehicle for self reflection here. Keep the articles coming. I enjoy your writing style!
Val
Thank you so much Val for your comments. My aim in all my writing is to create either conversation or self reflection and I am very happy you believe I have done this with these articles. I would be thrilled to get these messages out to as many people as possible through any medium.
We have a responsibility to ourselves to have the life we want. That doesn’t mean things always go according to plan, but it does mean, we don’t sink to blaming others for our circumstances.
Thanks again Val – kind regards
Brenda
Hi Brenda,
I don’t think I qualify as an “Energy Vampire.” The only point I could relate to above was the occasional “Pity Party.” But, that didn’t last very long as I thought it a total waste of my time and the only thing it accomplished was that I got mad of myself.
By the way, I love that picture
Have a great week!
Ilka
I think we have all had occasions to have a Pity Party, and I also have been guilty of this. However, this doesn’t make us Energy Vampires. We are human after all, and have a range of emotions we all go through in life. It’s only if we continuously use these emotions with all the interactions we have with people, and never resolve or move on.
I thought it was a great picture too – reflecting his vision onto a mirror – something we all need to do on occasions.
I appreciate your comments Ilka. Thank you for visiting my site, and also hope you have a fantastic week too.
Hi Brenda,
I hope the energy vampires find your post- they could use these tips!
. We have all known people that are magnates for drama. The two books I read constantly is The Four Agreements and A New Earth which talks a lot on being self-aware and recognizing when you’re being full of drama or around others that are.
Janette
Thanks Janette
They are both great books. Interestingly enough I have had a private comment sent to me about their recognition about being an Energy Vampire after reading the post, which has been my aim of these articles.
As you said, self awareness is the key to change, and if I have helped even one person recognize that they alone have the power to change themselves I am happy.
More on this topic to come
Hello, I especially love this topic Am I An Energy Vampire? Thinking about many people I know. Explains how sometimes i am exhausted after spending time with them. Thanks, Zahn
There is clearly a great deal to understand about this topic. You created some great points and made me think about my friends and relatives also.
Fantastic – keep it up
Thank you Crystal and Zahn for your comments. Recognition is the first step
Thanks for this post. I thought it was awesome. Energy vampires are everywhere
Congratulations, you are a talented writer and are amazing. Thanks for sharing your knowledge
I felt like I was reading about me…well I guess I was. Hit me like a ton of bricks. Time for a change for me
This was a very motivating post for me.Good job. Will keep alert for the energy vampires in my life from now on.
This post was even better than the other post on Energy Vampires for me. Great timing and good information
I found this difficult to read – too close to home…..ouch
Hello this is amazing site! Great inspiration and full of new knowledge for me – can’t get enough of what you write
Terrific post,. Need to show some of my friends and hopefully they will recognize the energy vampire in themselves :0
Keep up the good work. Thanks from Bob
Yes
Bit confronting reading this…..maybe I am a vampire after all!…….an energy vampire that is. But by recognising it – I can change it!
This post is incredibly eye opening – thank you
There are a couple of people that will be shown this article….hopefully they will recognise their vampire qualities